Invoice

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A few weeks after attending the Baby Expo, I received an invoice in the mail.  It wasn’t something I was expecting but I knew why I received it and had forgotten about it.  It was an invoice from Fertility Institute of Hawaii regarding our 5 embryos.

No, I had not informed Fertility Institute of Hawaii that I was pregnant.  No one called to follow up with me and I didn’t feel the need to tell them I was pregnant.  It’s not a big deal to me, that’s just how it happened.

Anyways!  The invoice was to preserve the 5 frozen embryos for a year.  This cost $628.27 ($600 + 4.712% tax) to be exact.  Seems like a lot of money for something that can’t be see with the naked eye.  Lol.  Well, that’s how much it costs and here are our options:

1.  Pay the $600+ to preserve our embryos

2.  Not pay the invoice and choose to discard or donate our embryos

Oddly enough, this decision was much harder than we thought.  My initial thought was that we would discard the embryos.  Paying the more than $600 was not appealing to me and it wasn’t a decision I really wanted to make while I was pregnant.

It’s not any easy decision to make but it had to be done.  In discussion with my husband, we talked about the pros and cons of both options available to us.  It took us 2-3 weeks during various times, to finally make a choice.  In the end, we decided on option #1 and paid to preserve our embryos for a year.  That will take us to May 2014 and we would go from there.  I know there’s no guarantee that we would have an easy time becoming pregnant again.  I suppose the best option for us at this time is to keep our options open, thus preserving our embryos.

I understand that this option is not available to everyone nor does it mean that anything will come of this decision.  We may be able to conceive on our own again or we may need to rely on assistance through IVF.  But since we paid the invoice to preserve our embryos, we have the option available to us.  We will have to see how it goes.

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Pregnancy Class & Baby Expo 2013

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Hello All!

Time is quickly passing and I need to catch up on few things.  So I’m going to combine a couple things into 1 post.

First, since we plan to have our baby at Queen’s Medical Center (QMC) in Honolulu, we decided to check out the classes and other information they offer.  That’s how we signed up for the “Understanding Birth and Babies Intensive” class.  It was 9am – 5pm and $80/couple.  You could bring your own lunch, which we did, or you can purchase something in the cafeteria.  The provided some snacks too.

At first, I wasn’t concerned about the class and thought it would be helpful for us to do something prior to the birth of our son.  I definitely wasn’t sold on participating in a particular thing like lamaze classes.  I sought information pertaining to labor and delivery, breast feeding, and any other information that would help.

So, I knew going into the class that I would be bombarded with information.  Interestingly enough, the class kept my attention and I learned a lot.  I watched more birthing videos at that class than I’ve ever watched in my life.  Lol.  The class covered an overview of all the medications available during labor, breast feeding including different positions for the baby, changing diapers and swaddling.  We also practiced various breathing methods for contractions.  I’m not sure how successful I was with that.  The women held a bag of ice in their hands while the instructor timed the “contractions”.  By the end of the exercise my bag of ice was melted.  Lol.  During one of the breathing exercises, the spouses or partners were coached by the instructor to assist the women with a “contraction”.  When I looked at my husband for the breathing, he smiled at me and didn’t say anything.  I shook my head and we just laughed.  Obviously we weren’t taking it too seriously.  Lol.  It’s something we’d have to work on.

We also received a few magazines, a lot of handouts, and a booklet.  The booklet we got was “Understanding Birth”.  I believe you can check it out at seewhatyouread.com.  There was a booklet about installing a car seat, a pamphlet about birth certificates, a pre-registration form for admissions, and general information about maternity services.  All helpful information, of course.  That was not everything we received.  Prior to attending the class, we received an email with ALL the handouts and powerpoint presentations that would be discussed in the class.  We didn’t print them all out but we looked through all of them before attending the class.

The class ended with a maternity tour.  We saw the individual rooms complete with a bathroom, shower, tv, and pull out bed.  It was good to see what things will look like rather than just show up when you’re in labor.  Overall, I thought the class was good and helpful.  It didn’t necessarily calm any of me fears, but it helped me to understand more and be aware and hopefully more prepared.  I’m glad we went.

Baby Expo 2013

I wish I could say the same about the Baby Expo 2013.  I should’ve known better but we still went.  To attend, it was $6 for parking and $5.50 per person.  There was a $1 off coupon for admission making it $4.50 per person.  So, just to get the 2 of us in the door…it was $15.  Typing that makes it seem even more ridiculous that we went.  Anyways!

Upon entry we were given all these ads and papers.  There was supposed to be a free gift for the first 100 people.  We were one of the first people in line because I had an early appointment.  Believe me, we were not there early to stand in line for a free gift.  Besides, you know what the free gift was??  Drum roll….$10 off coupon for “Banz”.  Seriously?  I don’t want to sound like I’m complaining about a free gift, but that’s pretty much what I’m doing.  I thought a little goodie bag would have been more helpful.  Well, that’s just what I think.

I soon realized that the Baby Expo wasn’t going to be helpful to me as an expecting mother. I felt like I was a target for companies.  Everywhere we went, vendors were trying to get us to sign up for a drawing for some kind of baby item or 1st birthday party.  A first birthday, really?  The baby’s not even here!!  I thought that was a bit ridiculous.  Yes, I know I like to be organized and plan things far in advance but entering a drawing for a 1st birthday party was a bit much for me.  Needless to say, I didn’t enter too many of those.

Unfortunately, I was not about to leave after paying $15 to enter.  There were a lot of food booths around and a lot of other meaningless vendors.  Check this out, for example, there were at least 2-3 solar companies there.  Tell me, what do solar companies have to do with me having a baby?  I don’t know who goes to a baby expo looking to install solar panels!  Lol.  That was obviously one vender that was not helpful for me.  It could have been helpful for someone else looking to lower their energy costs with all the laundry they’ll do with a baby.

Of the 100+ booths set up, I think there were only a handful that were meaningful to me.  The Queen’s Medical Center booth was the one I found most beneficial and pertinent to my needs.  Since I would be delivering there, it made sense to stop there.  There was a lactation specialist present and she provided some helpful information about breastfeeding.  I was a little caught off guard by the way she talked about breasts.  I suppose I was not expecting such straight-forward talk.  Lol.  My husband reminded me that it’s her line of work/career.  Made sense.  At that booth they also handed out magnetic picture frames.

We got a lot of handouts – some helpful, some not.  We also attended a class or workshop on how to keep your baby safe.  There were 4 couples total in the class and it was free.  The class touched on how to keep your baby safe in a crib/play pen.  The instructor had a crib set up and we, the participants had to tell her 7 things that were wrong with it.  So, pretty much the baby should lay on their back with nothing else in the crib – no bumpers, blankets, nothing.  She explained risks for SIDS, answered our questions, invited us to receive free texts about caring for baby, and that was it.

I think we spent more money on parking, entrance, and food than anything else!  Of course there were vendors selling items such as hooded towels, blankets, clothes, etc.  None of those things appealed to me because if I made the time, I could make them myself.  Lol.

Well, I probably won’t be going to another Baby Expo but it’s ok.  I’m sure it can be helpful for someone else! 🙂

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